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Washington Women’s Heritage Project records, 1900-2000 
University of Washington Libraries Special Collections 
Susan Quant Bianchi 
April 30, 1992 
Cassette 2, Side 2 
 
 
Susan Quant Bianchi  00:01 
Wasn't a hide-a-bed. They had a couch that was this much shorter than Stan is, and then they put 
a cot up to the couch. And so, Stan being, I don't know if he was being the gentleman, he said, 
you know, you go ahead. And of course, he thought his feet could hang over the cot easier 
anyway. So I got up onto the couch part, and he goes to lay down on the cot part, and it's this 
much lower than the couch. The thing fell flat on the ground. I mean, this, this is like our, how 
our honeymoon went. The next morning, we took one sheet out of the bed, we took an ashtray, 
we took a clock, and we just got-- we just-- this is it, we're getting out of here, you know. So we 
headed, we headed back to Bellingham. Actually, what we wanted to do was, all of our friends 
from college who had come, you know, from all over the-- all over the state, were at my folks' 
house. So we went down there and got to visit with all of our friends. And then we checked into 
a motel, and the Key Motel in Bellingham for our second night, and had another-- that night, that 
night actually was much nicer and that was the end of our honeymoon, two quick nights, and 
back to fishing. Out to the reefnet here.  
 
Linda C. Meuter  01:11 
Some neat memories.  
 
Susan Quant Bianchi  01:13 
Yeah, crazy memories, yes. And then we start our-- start-- then it's starting marriage. And how 
no one ever taught you how to be married, what it meant? Boy, we had a lot to learn, and I all I 
knew was we were not going to be the fighting kind of couple. You know? We were not, we 
weren't going to do that. And we did have some fights the first couple years we were married. 
And it took us a while to learn how not to do that. Know how to figure it all out, but we did. And 
there's a lot, there's a lot to learn about. I think we have a really good marriage. We've been 
married 28 years, and I think we have a really good marriage. One of the things that I'm the most 
proud of is that I've never been with another man in my whole life. Stan is the only person I've 
ever been with, and that almost makes me even want to cry, because it means so much to me. It 
means-- it means everything to me. I didn't. I just didn't throw it away. I gave it to someone that I 
loved, and that where love was returned. And not only that, I don't think Stan's ever been with 
anyone but me. So the two of us, I think, in today's age, share something that's really, really 
special. I'm proud of it. 
 
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Linda C. Meuter  02:29 
What did you learn in those first few years of marriage? 
 
Susan Quant Bianchi  02:34 
What did I-- oh, there was so much to learn. I think my biggest surprise was that we went 
together so many years, that I thought it would be so easy to be married. I mean, we would we 
already knew everything about each other and that, you know, would be just, just simple. All we 
were doing was, you know, kind of changing our address, which we lived at the bottom of 
Western on 21st Street. We were moving all our stuff in and it was going to be as simple as that. 
And the first week, when we had our first argument, our second argument, third argument, and 
the first, you know, in one day, I thought, Whoa, you know, we, you know, we didn't argue when 
we were, when we were going together. What-- what is this? And it took, it took me a long time 
to figure it out. It took me probably, I think we were about married, maybe seven years before I 
really figured out how not to argue. And since that time, you know, we haven't, but it, you know, 
but the first two years were the worst, and I think part of the reason is that my whole life went 
upside down when we got married, and I didn't realize how that was going to affect me. I thought 
just the idea of being married was going to be so romantic and so wonderful that it would be 
okay, but it wasn't enough. I was a college student, you know, doing all the things college 
students do, to now, I was working. I was working in a restaurant over on south side, but Stan 
was still a college student. His life, you know, hadn't-- his life really, virtually, didn't change, 
except that he was living with me now. He was still going to Western, still studying to be a 
teacher, and still playing basketball, and what bugged me, and what we had a lot of fights about-- 
and still running around with his friends that he played basketball with, who were crazy type, 
you know, guys. I mean, they were always, you know, dating a lot and very romantically 
involved with a lot of girls. And I was jealous of that fact and I think I was jealous of Stan that, 
you know, he might do things that they were doing even though he was married. That's 
something I never, never told him, but I, you know, a matter of my trusting him. I don't-- I didn't 
trust him totally. I was jealous, and they would go out golfing, and it's just in my eyes, it seemed 
like he was still having all the fun. And something else that happened when we got married, right 
after-- soon, what would have been in November, after we got married, I got pregnant for the 
first time, and I was extremely excited about it. I'd always wanted to have children, and-- but in 
December, I lost the baby, and I had an awful time getting over it. I, you know, I cried for 
months, and it was-- it-- to me a baby, even though it was six weeks, you know, I think I lost it 
when I was about-- it was about six weeks. It was still a total human being to me. It was my child 
and I never changed from that. I always felt that way about all of my pregnancies. And during 
that, that time, about every, well, I had two miscarriages the first year we were married. And I 
was working at a drive-in which was hard work, and then I would be out of work, and we had no 
money, and it was, and it was hard. The best times of that two years was Stan's playing 
basketball. I absolutely loved going to his games. His playing basketball meant as much to me, I 
think, as it did to him. I mean, I just felt totally wrapped up whether they won or lost, or how he 
felt, or I knew the plays. I knew where he was supposed to be. He was a wonderful basketball 
player, and I loved watching him play. The second year of our marriage, he was captain of the 
basketball team, and it was-- that was extremely exciting. And he and Jack [?Nybert?] played 
that year, and it I remember the last basketball game of the year. This would have been in 1966. 
Western played Central, and whoever won that game got to go to the nationals. And I just 
remember sitting there. It meant everything, it was Stan's last ball-- last basketball game, and it 
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was going to be all over and, you know, whoever won got to go on to Nationals. Whoever lost, it 
was over, and we lost. And I just remember feeling all the, you know, all those feelings you 
have. Everyone had cleared the gym, everything was empty, and Stan still had not come out. I 
walked down towards the men's dressing room and was standing outside and Coach came out 
and said he'll be out pretty soon. He's taking it kind of hard. And I could hear him there, and Stan 
and Jack were in there crying. You know, you have to be involved in sports on that level to know 
what I'm talking about. I never was, and yet I felt it through him, and I loved it through him. 
Those were the best parts of the of the first two years of our marriage, we had some fun trips to 
Ocean Shores that those two years. Stan's grandparents lived there, and we, we bought a red 
Porsche. A nine-- it didn't run very well, but it was red, and it was gorgeous. It was an, I think, I 
don't know. I think it was a '56, you know, but it was, it had 1000s of miles on it, and it was 
cheap. And we sold a '57 Ford for it, and we took, you know, us in the Porsche, down to Ocean 
Shores and we'd go clam digging, and, you know, come back with the clams that would help get 
us through a few more meals at home. Again, the hard part was the money, and then the second 
two years of our marriage, I had two more miscarriages. So in our first two years of marriage, I'd 
had four miscarriages, and felt totally like-- I was starting to get scared then. I didn't know what 
I'd do if we couldn't have a family. I started to feel like I wouldn't be able to have children, and I 
was very sad over that. And yet at that time, even though I know Stan was sad about it, he could 
never share that with me, and I felt real alone in it. And Stan's life, like I said, wasn't changing. 
You know, I was working and having miscarriages, and he was up at Western playing ball, and 
taking classes, and meeting interesting people, and getting smarter, and, you know, and all of that 
good stuff. And I was just, you know, I just felt like the old housewife. And the other problem I 
had, personally, was I started out on birth control pills, which put on 25 pounds in two months. I 
just could not take birth control pills, and they lowered the dose and changed things around. But 
still, I, you know, I know it was my-- I think I was somewhat depressed, and I gained weight. 
And of course, you get heavier, and that added-- that just multiplied to my feeling less self-worth 
and I, it took me-- it was through my 20s I remained heavy, and it took me-- I was 29 when I got 
a handle on it. Started losing weight, but took-- you know, so I was heavy for 10 years, and that 
was hard on me. I think, I think it's real hard to be heavy and have a really good self-esteem. I 
had a sense of humor that I, you know, that I'd always had, and when I was heavy, I still had that 
sense of humor. This is, I don't know if that's a story of that, you know, someone that's heavy has 
to have a sense of humor, or they lean on that for what's good about them, but... That-- those 
were hard years. Stan finally graduated in May of '66 and was, you know, applying rapidly for 
teaching jobs. And we got a teaching job, I say we, got a teaching job at Adna High School, 
which was about five minutes out of Chehalis, down past Olympia. And we were teaching 
someone with Mike Merriman. He played basketball with Stan for several years at Western, and 
I knew his wife. We'd been good, good friends. So, we were excited about, you know, the first 
year of teaching and being somewhere where, where we were teaching with someone that we 
knew. And went, went down to Adna. We-- one of the things that we got was the house that-- the 
school owned a house, and it was right on school property. And that was fun, because I could 
look out the window, I could see the school stand-- could walk back and forth. I could watch the 
kids coming and going, and always knew what was going on. That was really fun. I felt more a 
part of it that way. And I think the rent was $30 a month. We went-- and our rent on 21st Street 
was $45 a month. So times have changed a little, you know. So our rent was $30 a month, and 
Stan was head football coach, and assistant basketball coach, and head track coach. And Mike 
Merriman was the other coach, and he was assistant football, and head basketball, and baseball 
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coach. And Stan was the entire math department and the entire science department. I think there 
were 100 kids in the whole school with four and a half teachers, or something like this. But this, 
this was a new-- a new adjusting year. It was a real adjustment. Was the first time I had ever 
been away from home, and that was lonely for me. Whatcom County was home. I was, you 
know, gone from my sisters and from my family, you know, any family or friends I had ever 
known. And I've never, I never have been the adventure-sys-- adventuresome type. And so that 
was hard for me. The fun part of being at Adna was you were a part of everything that school 
did. We chaperoned all the dances and, you know, we were just-- we went to the plays. We did, 
you know, everything the school did, if it was a play or a concert or, you know, any of the 
games, you know, we were a part of it. And Stan was a really well-liked teacher, and so we had 
kids over at our house a lot, and that, that was a fun time. I think, other than, you know, enjoying 
the school, and enjoying the kids, and everything, we also had a really good time with Penny and 
Mike Merriman, and Kathy and Don Haggen. They were teaching in Auburn at that time. They 
just got, you know, their jobs. And these were, you know, our friends. We all got engaged at 
Western at the same time. And we, you know, we're all getting married. Actually, Kathy and 
Don got married while we were at Adna in November. So they were newlyweds, but they would 
come down from Auburn and stay with Penny and Mike, or stay with us, and we'd go out and do 
things. We were close to Portland. And this was also the time when the go-go scene was just 
first-- I mean, it was first happening. It was brand new. It was the topless go-go dancers. And so 
we had, absolutely had to go, had to go to Portland to check this out and see what this was all 
about. It wasn't that great. But, you know, we checked it out, and it was kind of interesting. We 
went out to dinner, and, you know, did that, and.. I don't know, it just-- to me, at first, when I 
thought of girls taking off their tops and dancing that way, to me, it was very, very shocking. 
And now, I mean, they take everything off, I mean it's just, just incredible how things have gone. 
But we did a lot of things with as you know, as couples, the six of us did a lot of things. Another 
new part of my life at that time was that I had my fifth miscarriage, and this one was the hardest 
one I ever had. I was five months pregnant. My milk came in when I started to miscarry. I 
remember laying in bed all night, I was in labor, and Stan holding me and just talking to me. It 
was awful. And after that miscarriage, I knew that that we needed to-- maybe we needed to 
adopt. And at this point in my life, I didn't want to go back to college. That was just not my 
focus. I had wanted to be a teacher, and actually, as I had, as I'd left Western I realized music 
wasn't what I wanted to do. I wanted to be a psychologist, maybe a school psychologist, and if I 
had gone back, that might have been my direction, but at this point, when we were to Adna 
School, I did not want to go back to college. I wanted a family. I wanted to be a mom, and I 
wanted kids. So we started in 1966, through the adoption procedure, trying to get a child. It took 
from '66 to 1972, when we got Mike. So it was that many years in and out of adoption agencies. 
And you know that whole ball game, it was rough.  
 
Linda C. Meuter  15:32 
Was that unusual for, for adoption? 
 
Susan Quant Bianchi  15:34 
At this time, adoption was very tight. Was very, very tight. When we went-- our first contact was 
the Children's-- Washington Children's Home Society, and we weren't even, we were not even on 
any kind of an active list. We would be put in a file, you know, after all of these that you know, 
several 100 already would have gotten their children. Then, they go from-- to file one, file two. I 
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don't even know which file we were in, but we were in a file we weren't even in an active list. 
And we went, I know I just went home totally, totally discouraged and just wanting to be a mom. 
And my sister Chris had a baby about this time, and-- when, this was when Connie was born. 
And I know Chris felt bad about this, but there was nothing she-- you know, it was nothing she 
could do about it. But, you know, so now Mom and you know, we all had the new, you know, 
grandchild in the family, and it was so exciting. And you know, it was just a real sad thing for 
me. In the spring of that year, Stan started looking for other teaching jobs. He liked Adna very 
much, but he wanted to be a head basketball coach, and we also knew that we wan-- we wanted 
to be back in Whatcom County, that was home to us. And about this time, we got a telephone 
call, and we learned that there was an opening for a head basketball coach at Blaine High School. 
So we came up to Blaine, and I remember my first driving around the city and, you know, 
looking and thinking, Oh, we could be here, you know. And went through all the interviews. 
They also-- one thing that-- they interviewed me.  
 
Linda C. Meuter  17:11 
They did? 
 
Susan Quant Bianchi  17:11 
No, they interviewed him for the job, but I also had to go through an interview. Isn't that just... 
 
Linda C. Meuter  17:17 
That is amazing.  
 
Susan Quant Bianchi  17:18 
It shocked me. I that I had to go through an interview, and it also made me feel a part of it, you 
know? But in-- Stan was hired and got the head basketball job here at Blaine, and math teacher.  
 
Linda C. Meuter  17:29 
What year was that?  
 
Susan Quant Bianchi  17:30 
1966. He got the job and started in the fall of '67 so this rather ticked off the superintendent at 
Adna, because he, you know, this was late in the year, this was May that he got hired at Blaine. 
So-- and Vietnam War was going on. So he was going to try and-- try to get, I don't know what 
he was going to do exactly, but he was going to get Stan-- try, try to get him thrown into the 
Vietnam War somehow, and threatened him. He wanted Stan to teach at Adna, and he wanted 
him to stay, and if he wanted to leave the next year, fine. But he did not want him leaving. He 
was-- Stan was really well liked, and that was, I mean, you know, so he started threatening.  
 
Linda C. Meuter  18:09 
He was a major player in school.  
 
Susan Quant Bianchi  18:11 
He called Blaine and told him that he wouldn't, he would not release Stan from his teaching 
position at Adna. We just, I don't know, it was one crazy time. We decided to heck with it. We 
left anyway. He would not release him. We just, he was-- he hired an attorney. He was going to 
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take us to court. It was a huge thing. And we just-- a matter of fact, I think, now that I think 
about it, he got hired more like in June, and in June we had left Adna and we were living at 
Stan's mom's house while Stan was fishing, and so we left all of our things in Adna. And after 
Stan got his job, we rented a U-Haul and down to Edna. We cleaned out in one afternoon where 
we're gone, and we never went back. So-- turned in our keys, and paid our rent and to the 
superintendent, and just, he was still, at that time, suing us. He was suing us through the whole 
summer. It did just-- he finally dropped it. He finally just gave up. But-- 
 
Linda C. Meuter  19:11 
--do you remember what he was suing for?  
 
Susan Quant Bianchi  19:14 
Because he would not relinquish Stan, because he had not quit. He had not given enough time. 
He had not given enough time, you know, in his-- in quitting, he had not given enough time for 
Adna to find an excellent teacher to replace him. That was supposedly what it was all about. But 
it wasn't. You know, it was that he was angry with Stan for what he did, rightly or wrongly. But 
we were where we wanted to be. We were back in Whatcom County, and Stan was head 
basketball coach, which was what he wanted to do. And I was happy being back home. And we 
did two major things that summer. One, Stan bought a reefnet gear, so we now own our own 
reefnet gear, and we hired three Adna kids-- students to come and fish for him. So they lived 
with us in Charlotte's house, that's Stan's mom, they lived with us all summer. So, you know, it 
was kind of a crazy summer. And also, and then, we were looking for a house in Blaine and we 
bought our first home. And, you know, we looked all over. Matter of fact, it's the same house I'm 
sitting in right now. We bought this house. This would have been in August of 1966, and we're 
still here, and we've added on, I think, about four times and the house has changed a bit, but this 
is, this is our one and only home too. So, and then we started, you know-- we, everything is we. 
But started teaching at Ad-- at Blaine. And Stan loved it here, absolutely loved it here. And I was 
much happier too. 
 
Linda C. Meuter  20:45 
Tell me about your adjustments in moving to Blaine. 
 
Susan Quant Bianchi  20:51 
I had a lot of adjustments that surprised me again. It almost felt like the first two years we were 
married. Stan had his niche. He was the-- he had what he wanted. You know, it seemed like he 
was where he wanted to be. He was head basketball coach and teaching math, and he was 
excited, and he came home excited about life, and I was his frumpy housewife. That's kind of 
what I felt like. And I didn't, still didn't want to go back to college. I wanted to be a mom, and so 
we were still, you know, totally pursuing that route. I was still having miscarriages. The total, I 
had 10 miscarriages from beginning to end, you know, and this was over a long period of time, 
but I ended up having 10 miscarriages, and that, you know, took up my emotions and, you know, 
how I, you know, how I felt. I cried a lot. I mean, I cried a lot, and I was down and depressed, 
you know, a lot-- it was hard, hard to get up. I got-- I needed something for me, and I knew that, 
and I wanted it to be Mom. But since I wasn't a mom, I just, I just didn't know where to, you 
know where to go. I floated behind Stan, what, you know, a lot, you know. And I was really 
involved with his coaching and with his student groups. They would come to our house for 
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meetings, and teachers had meetings a lot in those years at Muriel Terry's house, and I always 
went to all of those, or [?Alma?] Hayes house. But it wasn't for me. Still was nothing for me and 
I surprisingly lost myself in those years. And I can remember, you know, Stan worrying over it 
and wondering what you know, how he could help me-- you know, how he could help me. And I 
described, you know, feeling like I was in a big hole, and the dirt was coming in, and I didn't 
know how to get out. I didn't know how to find me. I didn't know where I was. I didn't know 
what to do. And, you know, I got a stupid job at a grocery store down in the bay, just to fill up 
some hours of my day. But I, you know, I hated it. It was, it was not me. It wasn't any, you 
know, I knew there was a lot better in me than sitting doing that kind of thing. That was the bad, 
that was the bad parts. The other thing that surprised me, or-- but I found Blaine to be a really 
closed community, and it was, and it still is.  
 
Linda C. Meuter  23:11 
How closed? 
 
Susan Quant Bianchi  23:11 
Very closed, and it still is. You either-- you know, I have a group now, you know, wonderful 
group of friends, great group of friends, but it's a closed group too. I mean, it's a pretty closed 
group. We don't know when someone new comes into Blaine and, you know, going, you know, 
we're just-- 
 
Linda C. Meuter  23:27 
--looking for a friend, or... 
 
Susan Quant Bianchi  23:29 
No, I'm not looking for-- 
 
Linda C. Meuter  23:30 
--No. I mean, if someone comes into Blaine looking for a friend, you wouldn't know it in your-- 
 
Susan Quant Bianchi  23:34 
--I'm not aware of it. I'm happy with what I've got, and I don't think about it. But in the same 
token, when I was new here, you know, going to the grocery store, going to the drugstore, seeing 
not a face I knew. No one knew me, you know. I was-- and I was always the coach's wife, you 
know, I was never Sue, and Susan, Sue Bianchi, and even Mrs. Bianchi, I was the coach's wife. 
And, you know, I just-- the identity. Where was my-- I had no identity, but Blaine has a lot of 
close, you know, groups. There's just all their-- I think this is really common of a small town, 
and this group, and that group, and that group, and they were busy doing all their social things, 
and I just wasn't in a group. Our first friends that we met in Blaine were Jake and Jo Creasey. 
And the reason-- and they're friends to this day, and the reason we became friends, or that we 
met them, was that Jake went through college with Stan's uncle, Monty Bianchi. So the-- Stan's 
aunt and uncle were good friends with Jake and Jo. So, you know, we got to know Jake and Jo. 
And Jake was the athletic director, and then the other people that befriended us were Vivian and 
Reg [?Campan?]. And after the ball games, they would have us over to their house for tea or 
coffee and cake. And I mean, you couldn't meet a sweeter couple than they were. So that was 
kind of our social life, as far as you know, Blaine went, and I just kind of wandered on, feeling 
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lost. And this lasted for about three years. And on the other side of during that, that three years, 
we became extremely close with Kathy and Don Haggen. And they would, you know, they 
would head up to Blaine, many, many weekends. And...  
 
Linda C. Meuter  25:18 
This is your teacher friends. [Inaudible.]  
 
Susan Quant Bianchi  25:19 
Stan played basketball with Don, and Kathy and I-- and Kathy and I were real close friends. And 
Stan and Don loved hunting, and Kathy's folks lived in a farm over in Yakima, so all fall, you 
know, as many weekends as we could fit this in doing this, we would go over to Yakima and go 
dove hunting and duck hunting. And Kathy and I would go looking at antique sales and the four 
of us, in evenings would go to, um, oh, where you go, and bid on--where you go and bid on 
antiques. What is that called?  
 
Linda C. Meuter  25:55 
Auctions.  
 
Susan Quant Bianchi  25:55 
Auctions. Antique auctions. There are just hundreds of antique auctions over the-- in that area. 
And I bought a Fostoria set of crystal, that's antique set over there. I remember bidding on it and 
getting, you know, being really excited about getting that, but Kathy and I spent a lot of time 
together, and Stan had got Don in hunting. And one of my favorite stories is looking through 
Kathy's family album. And this was probably maybe even the third year into going over, and 
staying with her folks, looking through Kathy's family album. And coming-- I turned the page, 
and right here I turned the page, is a picture of my grandfather, and I'm just like, Kathy, what's a 
picture of my grandfather doing in your album? And she's-- and she says, Well, that's my 
grandmother next to him. It was a picture of all the brothers and sisters. There were 12 brothers 
and sisters of the Floyds. This was my mother's father and so Kathy's grandmother and my 
grandfather are brother and sister. And we, you know, we started screaming and yelling. And, I 
mean, we were-- we were just, we were so excited, yelling. Stan and Don were out getting the 
feathers off the ducks, or whatever men do. And we were screaming. They heard us. They came 
running in, What's going on? We're related, and we're jumping up and down, you know? We're 
cousins, and we've known each other since basketball days at Western in '65 and we're now to 
the year 1970. 15 years? Is that 15 years? No, it can't be 15 years. I've done something wrong. 
This is 1970. Yeah, five years. Five years we've known each other, and three years have been as 
really close, like brothers and sisters, and we now find out that we're related. So that was really-- 
 
Linda C. Meuter  27:52 
--that is amazing. That's a -- 
 
Susan Quant Bianchi  27:52 
--that was really excited, and it was the beginning of a close relationship. They had two boys, 
you know, I'll tell you later that we get two boys. But, you know, we have two boys, and they 
have two boys, and the ages are all close. And we did everything together. We ski together, camp 
together. Kathy and Don are Kevin's godparents and they lived here. They fished here, and lived 
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here one summer with us, and that, you know, you wouldn't have to call, you just show up at 
their house. They could show up here. And it was 20. You're very, very-- as close a relationship 
as two couples can find. And the sad part of that at this point is that they've divorced. And I 
guess I'm still, even though I know the divorce was meant to be, it's still sad. It's still sad for me, 
it's still hard. We haven't found a way of having a force and friendship again. It's just, you know, 
it's not the same anymore, but I would never give up the 20 years we had. It was extremely 
special. And in 1970, I found my first niche, which was getting employed at the YWCA. Maybe 
it was '69, I'm not sure, somewhere in there. And prior to that, they'd always hired college 
graduates. I was the first one hired that wasn't a college graduate, and that kind of did something 
good for my ego. And I was hired as youth director for the YWCA, and it was, you know, just 
right up my alley. I started teen groups. I was involved with the adult group. I was on the Board 
of Directors for the Y. There were three teen groups that I started that had-- they were-- there 
was-- there was nothing happening. One, a group from Fairhaven, and a group from Whatcom, 
and a group for Shuksan, and I was in, you know, in some involvement with the principals, 
where, if there was a problem, you know, I might be called in and, you know, asked to help. I 
also did some adult things. You know, was involved with their swimming program to some 
degree, just-- and I started a Chicano group at-- which is something I'd like to talk more about. 
Just getting to know the differences between the heritages of the two groups was, you know, 
totally interesting to me. The first thing I planned with the Chicano group was a swimming party, 
and then we were having a potluck dinner, and then we were having a dance so I filled out all 
these slips of paper. They were supposed to bring salads, hot dogs, buns, potato chips. I was 
going to bring the pop, okay? And it was set for a certain date. And this was their teen group, 
right? They show up with sisters, brothers, friends, mothers came. I don't remember any fathers, 
but a number of mothers came, like the whole family would come. No one brought any of the 
food. The hot dogs didn't show up. The salads didn't show up, and they weren't worried about it. 